| "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect".[al-Rûm 30:21] |
May the prayers and peace of Allâh be upon His Prophet Muhammad, the one who said in an authenticated hadîth :
| "Marry the loving and fertile, for I will compete with the other Prophets with the number of my followers on the Day of Qiyama". [Ahmad and at-Tabârani with hasan isnâd. And declared sahîh from Anas by Ibn Hibbân. And it has witnesses which will be mentioned in Question 19] |
After this opening: There are in Islâm, certain etiquettes upon anyone who marries and wishes to consummate his marriage with his wife. Most Muslims today, even those who exert themselves in Islamic worship, have either neglected or become totally ignorant of these Islamic etiquettes. Therefore, I decided to write this beneficial treatise clearly explaining these issues on the occasion of marriage of someone dear to me. I hope that it will be an aid to him and to other believing brothers in carrying out what the Chief of the Messengers has ordained on the authority of the Lord of the Worlds. I have followed that by pointing out certain issues important to every one who marries, and with which many wives in particular have been tested.
I ask Allâh Most High to bring about some benefit from this treatise, and to accept this work solely for His glorious countenance. Surely, He is the Righteous, the Merciful.
It should be known that there are many etiquettes in the area of marriage. All that I am concerned with here in this quickly compiled work is that which is authenticated of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, that which is irreproachable from the standpoint of its chain of narration and upon which no doubt can be cast in terms of its constructions and meanings. In this way, whoever reads and follows this information will be on a clearly established basis in religion, and will have full confidence in the source and validity of his acitons. I hope for him that Allâh will put the final seal of felicity on his life, in reward for beginning his married life with the following of the sunnah, and to make for him among His slaves whose statement He has described in the Qur’ân saying: And those who pray,
| "Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." [al-Furqân 25:74] |
The final disposition of things is for those of pious practise, as the Lord of the Worlds said:
| As to the Righteous, they shall be amidst (cool) shades and springs (of water). And (they shall have) fruits, - all they desire. "Eat ye and drink ye to your heart's content: for that ye worked (righteousness)." Thus do We certainly reward the Doers of Good. [al-Mursalât 77:41-44] |
The following then, are those etiquettes:
Part 1 : Kindness toward your wife when you wish to enter into her
Part 2 : Placing your hands on your wife's head and praying for her
Part 3 : The praying of husband and wife together
Part 4 : What to say at the time of making Love
Part 5 : How he should come to her
Part 6 : The Prohibition of Sodomy
Part 7 : Making Wudhû’ between 2 acts with one's wife
Part 8 : Bathing is preferable
Part 9 : The Bathing of Husband and Wife together
Part 10 : Making Wudhû’ after Sex and before Sleeping
Part 11 : The Ruling of this Wudhû’
Part 12 : Making Tayammum in a state of Janaba instead of Wudhû’
Part 13 : Bathing before Sleeping is Perferable
Part 14 : The Prohibition of sex when She is Menstruating
Part 15 : The Penitence of One who Has Sex during Menses
Part 16 : What is Permissible when She is on her Periods
Part 17 : When is it Allowed to resume Sexual Activity after Menses?
Part 18 : The Lawfulness of Coitus Interruptus
Part 19 : It is Preferrable not to Practice Coitus Interruptus.
Part 20 : What the two Spouses should Intend with their Marriage
Part 21 : What he should do the Morning After His Wedding Night
Part 22 : The House must have a Place for Bathing
Part 23 : The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
Part 24 : The Obligation of a Wedding Feast
Part 25 : The Sunnah of the Wedding Feast
Part 26 : Wedding Feasts can be give with Other than Meat
Part 27 : Participation of the Wealthy in the Feast with their Wealth