Pleasing the Parents preceeds pleasing the Wife

1. On the authority of Ibn Umar may Allaah be pleased with them, who said that there was a woman under me that I loved, and Umar used to dislike her, so he said to me divorce her from your home, then the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) came and he was told about this, so the Messenger of Allaah said to me Divorce her !

2. On the authority of Abee Darda may Allaah be pleased with him who said that a man came and said, with me is a woman, and indeed my mother has commanded me to divorce her, so I said I heard the Messengerof Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) say :

The son is between the door of Paradise, if he wants he can leave this door or protects it.

3. The narration in Ibn Hibban in saheehah with the words : A man came to Abaa Darda, and said my father is not until my wife, and he has commanded me to divorce her, so he said, I will not command you to disobey your parents, nor will I command you to divorce your wife, except that I will tell you about this situation and what I heard the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) say, I heard him say :

The son is in the center of the door of Paradise, he can protect this door, or he can leave it.

4. On the authority of Mu’adh bin Jabal who said that the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) advised him with ten things, he said :

Do not associate anything with Allaah, and do not kill anyone, and burn anyone, and do not disobey your parents, even if they tell you to leave your family and your wealth